We need to be comfortable in our skin!

 Recently we have lost a great talent and also a divine beauty, yes, I am talking about Shridevi ji . May her soul Rest In Peace! While reading lots and lots of news about her after this irreparable loss,
I came across an article where it was mentioned that she was under lots of pressure regarding with her weight and looks. She was going through medications, surgeries and many more to maintain her weight and youthful looks. I don’t know how much reliable that information was but if it was so I don’t understand why she needed that much efforts? I mean, she was an exceptional beauty and I don’t think few extra pounds could have tarnished her beauty? A wafer thin look is not natural for anyone if it’s not genetic? Flesh and optimum fat are integral and necessity of body. She was really graceful in the way she was and aging could not have affected her that much with a healthy lifestyle, in my opinion. Its great to age gracefully. There is a unique beauty in every steps of age. One needs to
Embrace it
Again, I was going through an article of Sonam Kapoor where she has mentioned the depressive lifestyle of celebrities. The one sentence which was really depressing for me was, “ she has more ingredients in her face pack than in her food”  food is the essence and meaning of human life because
We feel our share of happiness while taking our favorite food. Only things which we can be  experienced in our lives are meaningful, in my opinion,,,,,, leading a healthy lifestyle is something I can understand
because our body is our companion for life so it should be healthy, and all kind of efforts are justified to maintain it. But to fit yourself in a particular criteria,you are leaving a kind of experience which is really worth.
Nobody is going live here forever! So one should do everything which makes one happy. A healthy lifestyle will automatically lead you to a great life. Maintain yourself naturally, there is a grace in every age and aging is a natural process. You are bound to be old one day so don’t be obsessed about preventing the aging. Artificial fillings, surgeries and medications are only going to disturb your natural functioning. Go for yogas, exercises, natural products,,,,develop a healthy food habit, remain active, take a sound sleep and take care of yourself, that’s all you need to do. Grooming oneself once in a while is great but feeling shy in your own skin is bad. We need to be confident even when we are out without any make up as we were meant to be like that and that who we are! Everyone is unique and beautiful in one’s own way, we should appreciate that uniqueness.
To summarize the above, I just want to say that stay naturally beautiful, Be comfortable in your own skin,accept your age and  age gracefully, stay healthy, be progressive,live life to the fullest, spread positivity and illuminate this  world with your own spark! Or simply live your life 🙌,,,,Each one of us are the stars of the one common sky, we share. Cheers!👍😀

Men Vs Women! where the hell is it going?

          They seem to be at war with each other! Why? From where are, this negative vibes, coming? where are they leading to this discussion? Can they really do well without each others?
I don't know exactly why, all of sudden, these kind of talks get prominence,,,,but I guess we can take its track from the past where there were hardly any women in the developing countries who had got her own recognition with her own name. Either she was someone's daughter or someone's wife and lately, someone's mother. Though all of the above were respected posts at that time :-D but unlike men, they never got their own recognition as an individual. Now, you can really not count few exceptions because they will be always there,  in every case, however, we are talking about the majority of women community.

 Everything was good and smooth until few among them raise their voice against the pre established system. That was not against men really but, now women also want their recognition as an individual. She also want to share the power, position and even property.  Now, I think, nothing is wrong in it because it is a sign of a healthy and progressive society! Isn't it?

So? why is this a problem now? Answer is, the turbulence in a pre established system. giving up the privileges, sharing the major chunk......etc.
On the other hand, women don't want to take house hold responsibility solely, anymore but she don't want to give up her privileges also.
Guys! This is not about men or women but entire human race is a bit selfish :-D It wants everything good for the itself, at first! Socialisation is not a natural thing for human but it has been introduced to live in harmony. Division of labour was the requirement of the time. In ancient time, due to lack of resources and development, practically it was impossible for a man to handle outside and the home at the same time and so was the case with women. So, with mutual consent, they had divided the works between them to establish the family system. It was a very practical and realistic solution at that time because life was not so easy( physically) like today. Practically, house hold works a long with children were assigned to the women and collection of the livelihood a long with livestock went to men. System was practical, good and smooth so it worked really well! Everyone got used to it  and in the course of time, the rules became stricter. Earlier it was by choice but then it became mandatory for men and women to be in their restricted territories! Was is domination of male or lack of freedom, but, lately women developed a sense of inferiority. They thought, they are inferior to male so the division of labour converted into serving. Now, they serve their men and most of the works were obligations for her. It was occasionally suffocating for her but she was bearing with it to support the patriarchal system and sometimes due to fear as male members were physically more powerful.



   Time changes and its human nature that it can't take forceful rules. Human are freedom loving by nature and somehow the rules got biased for the women. With the development of technology, the house hold works and outer works become, physically, easier. Now, there were more of the mental works then the physical labor, unlike earlier. Women got the chance to step out of their houses and got the chances to see the outer world. They had started their education followed with jobs. Exposure to the outer world made her freedom loving like men. Now women also want to take education and work. They want their independence and no longer the obligations of house hold works. Due to past, they, sometimes, think revengefully about their male counter part. After getting her self dependence in terms of economy, she wants a redistribution of works unlike the previously established system, because, now the conditions are entirely different from the past. Now, both are supposed to work for the livelihood i.e. man and woman. So, the children and the house hold works are the responsibilities of both. No one should expect from women to work solely at home and at outer world ( office or her work place).
 Seems fair? But, it is not that simple from the psychological point of view,,,,,,,because, here, everything is changing for women positively i.e. self empowerment and less chunk of works at home ( which is demand of the time) but, for men, the work load has been increased! Previously, they only supposed to earn the livelihood but now, when they come back to home, they are suppose to share the house hold works also with their spouse. Now, here, arises the tension between the two. Men had seen their mothers and grand mothers only to work at home and not their fathers and grand fathers. Later, in the Patriarchal system, the house hold works were considered as an inferior works which should be done by women only! If a man was trying to help her women then other men used to make fun of that. They taunted him that he was acting like a woman (an inferior one between the two) !? Isn't it ridiculous? But true!
Now, major chunk of men of this era, also keep such mentality. consciously or subconsciously, it is in their mind that house hold works along with children and elders are only the responsibility of women! In the contrast, women do expect their men to share the burden! The very foundation of the war between the two, arises from here so the root is definitely very deep because it will be difficult for men to leave their past culture and women will also not ready to remain at home for the purpose or working at outside and solely at home...... the consequence is an unending war between the two which results into a broken family or relationship. When you tame a grudge against someone, the small, little things become larger! If the foundation of a relation is not based on mutual understanding, the ego takes its prominence in the relationship.

     What we can do is,,,,,let's start a fresh. Young generations are the saplings for the society. If you will turn back again and again to see the past, society will never progress. Our ancestors had their own reasons to make that system! There was nothing right or wrong in that  but that was demand of the time. World was simpler, life was simpler! But, You need to understand that the system of that time is no more relevant for today because of the changing life style! We extracts some valuable, relevant things from the past and then, can, make our own present. The concept of family is that valuable extract, in my opinion! We can't do without the family as an institution,,,even today! None of us wants to be alone! We all want someone who should be there for us in all the ups and downs of  life. I am not judging any one, but, being gay or lesbian, is also not  solution for the majority of us, as we want our own progenies to run our family, which is, again, not possible without the combination of the two. Almighty has created both to complement each others! So, please, make your peace with each others, be reasonable in your demands, develop a mutual understanding, share the burden and help in building the foundation of a healthy society, for both! You both are two wheels of a cycle called life, so, really can't do without each other. Let blossom the rosses of your hearts and enjoy the cosequent eternal fragrance... <3 + <3  Cheers and stay blessed!  :-D

Be a self motivated person! Think tank z on...

   Because, it really works wonder i.e. self motivation! You knows yourself better than anyone else, you knows your weakness and strength. You know what you actually want from your life so, yes, its you and only you who can motivate yourself for the long run (Y)
  Many times, it happens that we hear about someone or came across some incidents which inspires us to achieve something significant in our life,,,,,but in the course of time, we realise that they fades quickly, because those were temporary, event generated motivations which were not meant for us. For example- infatuations sound like love of life at the beginning but after certain time, we realise that that was not even love but an attraction. Yeah, its difficult to delineate the difference between love and infatuations at that time because symptoms are almost same in both the cases so it requires time and a bit of analysis to make a decision. Likewise, It takes some time to differentiate between temporary motivation and the permanent one.

Permanent one will stay with you, it will nag you time and again, no matters how much comfortable are you with your current situation. There will be a guilt feeling inside you that you are not doing what are you meant to be. The strong feelings of finding the meaning of your life in your own eyes.
   In this situation, give yourself a sufficient amount of time for analysis and you can consider this phase as a retreating phase for your soul searching. The best aspect of not doing something for a while is, you analyse honestly about yourself and not because you have to analyse. Without any compulsion, you take a better decision, informed decision about yourself. Put yourself under the critical microscope of your mind, take a visual litmus tests of your acts, summarise your life history, calculate the prose and cones........and the amalgam of the above will produce a real result because, its a real and diligent work of your think tank for you.

  So ? now what? what are you going to do about it? Should you again and again analyse the outcome?
Answer is, yes! Analyse yourself as long as it takes, think about the every aspects, reshuffle the plan, if required......but, but , but! when decided never look back for evaluations! Stick with the plan and act accordingly to achieve your goal of life!
If, at every step you will look back, you are never going to reach your destination and believe me, you really don't want this but its the laziness of your mind which force you to look back again and again. We want to achieve something but we want our comfort also and the struggle will be unyielding.
So, once realises the goal of your life, never turn back! Try hard, work diligently and look forward to achieve your goal which will automatically yeild the satisfaction and meaning of your life and why not! After all it was your self motivation which bring you here for the purpose. Cheers ! :-)

Why do we need women's day? Think tank z on...

       Hey Ladies! HAPPY WOMAN'S DAY!
                                                                         Ohhh! I have just realised that I am too humanist to address just women even on our special day. But I have not allocated this day for women? why shall I? I shall never be so miser to allocate just one day for women out of 365 days? Every day is women's day and men's day and the day of every creatures on the earth! As a strong woman from inside, it hurts my sentiment to allocate any particular day for us. I have not heard about Men's day? then why do we need Women's day? Are we not equal? Do we not complement each other? May be, I am in denial,,,,but I am sorry that I can't see any hierarchy! I refuse to accept the patriarchal society if  it is considering women's role any inferior! We had accepted this model because we wanted a harmonius society based on some rules,,, and for that we had sacrificed many of our birth right. We, willingly, don't claim anything from our birth place, we leave our birth place, we adjust ourselves in a completly new enviornment with strangers, we do our every bit to support your system. But none of them because we are inferior or timid! Its greatness of our heart  which like to give up everything to assure a systematic, civilized society and in return we want a respect and greatfullness in your eyes for us.  We don't like you to treat us like a weaker section as we are strong enough to do anything which can assure our strength in your eyes. I know, the purpose of this day was not to offend our kind. You wanted to recognize our achievements on this day,,,,,but this segregates us from you in a different way. For example- Guests in our houses are always welcomed and respectable but no body wants to be treated like a guest in his/her own house. So your this generosity is a bit uncomfortable for the women of substance. You and me are like two wheels of a bicycle and we,women, like it that way because it does not show any hierarchy. Division of labor should be the part of a harmonious society so we all are playing our parts within our own capabilities. Let's appreciate each other for that and accept the co-existance of each other because that will be the foundation of a healthy society. Cheers! :-)
             

Greed & Jealousy are integral part of human nature! Think tank z on...

             Can't say about infants, but the time since a human being become aware of his surrounding, he consciously or unconsciously feels like acquiring every possible things of his need. Now, what is basic need? i.e. food, shelter and clothes. Looks like very simple? But let me remind you that even some of them were also not the primary need of homo sapience. He use to wander naked here and there in search of food and any suitable, temporary shelter was good enough for him to spend his night. But then he start thinking of stability and after that the luxury. So he increases his needs to a permanent shelter, agricultural lands and clothes which was made up of tree leaves or dead animal's skin. Life was still simple and linear for him but a bit more comfortable now. attainment of relatively more luxury goods, encourages him to think further and further so now even sky is the limit for him! But in this very process, he didn't realise when the hell, a kind of unending greed enters into his life and in case of unfulfillment of the desire, a kind of restlessness was there inside him. & that was his newly discovered jealousy. Jealousy from others who is able to attain his desirable materials. It could have been earlier also in him but it couldn't find the significant reason to come out because there were no significant hierarchy in ancient time and almost everyone has food, shelter and clothes of  almost equal level.

  Where my mind is wandering right now is none of the above. That was mere an introduction with the past. But now what I am thinking is, 'What should be the appropriate limit where we should stop ourselves bothering  much about the materialistic gain?' Because greed is an endless processes and hence jealousy! Both of them are consequence of each others and increase in cascading rates when set free. Result is, 'The personality of that person is pitiable'. See the amount of restlessness in him. He forget the difference of right and wrong, crosses the boundaries of morality and humanity innumerable times and lastly he stop thinking himself as a true human being. He is a machine now with enhanced quality of greed and jealousy. The distorted presence of him is pleasant for none which causes further restlessness because unlike machines, human being wants his respect in the eyes of others regardless of his acts.

  Analyse his condition now. who is better? The primitive less privileged , satisfied man or advanced, materialistic, unsatisfied man? Decision is yours.

Here I am not trying to turn the modern man back into savagery and barbarism but trying to convey the essence that stretch yourself within your limit, Do what satisfy you, Try to quench your thirst at appropriate limit and save your personality from getting distorted. Getting distorted from greed and jealousy. Tame your instinct. Behave like a HUMAN!

Only a self motivated person can achieve the significant goals of life! Think tank z on...

                           
       Otherwise, its a temporary feeling without any significant base and direction i.e. achieving something significant in our life. Basically, every body wants to to something considerable in his/her life...something that can be recognized by the world, something which can be apreciated by the world, something which can quench our thirst of power and position in the world.
Mankind, from the beginning was power loving, he always wants to see himself on the top,,,,but there will be some heavy payment for the same if you are really want to do this. Significant things never come free of cost because, then, it will loose its significant/unique quality. Anything which is common to all, people just don't care about it. He always wants to stand apart from others to look unique and different.
However, in some people its natural and in others, its event generated i.e. when we feel ourselves low in others eyes or our self realization of our low stature in a known crowd. That's the time when we really want to achieve something big which can make us esteemed in a known folk.
Let me tell you, in most of the cases, this event generated ambition is temporary and we forget it as soon as we are again in a comfortable situation. After that, these kind of feelings are very off and on in our life, based on the frequency of such events in our life. The frequency raises when the people of some high stature, are around us because of frequent interaction with them, but, frequency is low when the same kind of people are around you. In this case, occasionally you find such people whom you think that they are better than you by any mean.
  Now, you can't help yourself in case of the feeling is temporary and you want to achieve something only because you want to earn your respect, BUT! Its really permanent when this is a part of your personality, it really make you happy and you are really restless when you are not doing something to achieve the goal of your life. Here, wait for moment to clear your concept,,,,merely thinking and a bit of acting in the right direction, is not assuring you for your goal, sometimes, even a genuine attempts may also make you disappointed! But, what really can create defference is your 'Never say die!'attitude. 

The phase of hibernation! Think tank z on...

                                                                                                                                                                              Hibernation phase! Its difficult for creative people to complete this phase when they want to move towards the goal of their life,,, but,  demand of the time is to keep silence, postpone it for certain period of time, and that's because of your current priorities. Circumstances are not favourable for the cause and it is bound to be the period of silence before the actual storm. This phase use to be difficult for you because its your own realisation, mental conflicts, dilemma and a rebel inside you who is bothering you so much. You want to be a self reliant person, You want to feel worthy, the rebel inside you, knows no boundaries, the selfish, self centred nature of her forcing you to do whatever you want to do with your life but the other more sensible one inside you is stopping you to do anything irrelevant. This one is more charitable, reasonable, understanding,mature,experienced and thoughtful.
The rebel is still a child so she is innocent, straight in her demand, non calculative and freedom loving. Ageing is not an obvious phenomenon for her so she does not take any lesson from the past experiences. She does not know how to follow a rule, her freedom knows no boundaries ! She just want to listen to her heart and no one else!
But, the sensible one,,,,, she has all the experiences of the living world. She is the one who grows old with you, she got affected by the worldly things, she wants to learn a lesson from the past mistakes. She thinks before talking to someone, she is more a believer of once bitten twice shy.
Both of them live inside you but they are not in talking terms, they are much like the North and South pole of earth with all different properties and characters however their home is same and even the earth has to make some equilibrium between its poles to accommodate them properly so that it can retain its balance.
Experiences always matters in the living world and we are living in this world only,,,,,so you need to give a sleeping pill to the rebellious child when she is getting stubborn. She just need to wake up when you are really in a mood of pampering yourself. :-D
Otherwise, discuss with the sensible one, she will fetch some good, meaningful advices.......and while discussing I realise that hibernation can be a retreating phase. You just need to plan your future properly in the available resources  and the restlessness is gone! The truth is, you are no more a child,,,and doesn't matter that the child in side you is not growing old,,,but she bound to die with your own physical end! 

Suffering must not be tolerated for Elders & Kids!

He whispers into my ears,,,,,very oftenly ! Think tank z on...

                                                                                                                                                                                       He use to advice me, He very oftenly opens my eyes to see the reality, He gently slaps me for my wrong doings, pampers me for all my good things,,,,,,Yes! My Almighty do talk to me directly like a real friend of mine! He is continuously with me like a torch bearer but yet He never imposes anything upon me. He use to show me all the options to choose with, according to my choice and intelligence. No, He is neither biased for me nor for anyone else,,,because that intelligence is not unique to me. This is the great gift, given to every human being from Him and that's all,,, coz rest all tof the acts, done by us, are our own choice without His contribution. But, yes, He advises you, He guides you when you genuinely seek it from Him. For you, He can be a shape of any popular deity or an image of your  own imagination but in reality he is shapeless like water. For me, He is like a true, impartial friend from long. But once, like other 'Sanatanies' I was also an idol worshipper and even now, I believe that It is the best way of worshipping when you are not able to focus,,,because, then you will not have to search Him here and there. You just need to concentrate on the Idol of your God and you will be satisfied with your worship. There will be no guilt of deviation during that auspicious period of conversation with God coz in your opinion and visually also, it will be one to one conversation i.e. from worshipper to the God. Everyone has his/her own idea of the God which is just various ways to concentrate on that one Almighty.

           In my case, I have seen my God growing inside me.. I have seen him, growing along with me since my childhood so accordingly He was the interpretation of my little innocent brain at that time. I used to take thirty minutes to one hour while complaining or complementing Him,,,and that was my innocent idea of worship at that time....but as the time passes, I grew up, so my God also. Now, I hardly says or ask for anything from him. In my childhood, I use to work hard honestly for my first rank in the class. Unfortunately I used to end up with second or third position...and that used to be the time of my serious fight with God. In a close room of mine, there used to be a pond of tears between me and my God! :-D
I used to ask every possible questions why couldn't I be the first ranker in the class? & followed with all the yelling, taunting, alleging and whatever came to my little mind at that time.....! Things were so simple, relation was so simple between us so after solid fighting, we use to become friends as ever without any complain. Likewise He was my teenager friend, youth friend and now we have developed a kind of maturity in our friendship. Since I know Him from so long,  so instant complains are less as compare to earlier. I feel Him very close to my heart so conversations are a bit more deeper, we have developed mutual understanding in the course of time so relationship is closer, I know the real He so less formality . Basically we are inseparable from each others so He live inside me. My heart is His home sweet home now. :-)
   In the above situation, I have fairly good luxury to talk to him on every possible matters of life,,,very oftenly,,,very frequently,  and He use to guide me wherever it is necessary. He use to tell me that I am no more a kid so I can go ahead with my decisions.Just, what I need to do is ," stick with my good intentions, I need to preserve the purity of my thoughts." Rest, I am a human being and unlike Him, I can't visualise my future so minor mistakes and flaws, will be forgiven. Laughing at this matter, He whispered again into my ear ,  "errors and mistakes are not allowed/forgiven for Me as I am the God!"  :-D

Let's become the human of substance! Think tank z on....

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Not for the others but for yourself,,,,inserting substance in to your personality gives you immense pleasure! A satisfaction of being, the purpose of living, the depth to our feelings, the widen horizon of  thinking,,,,,,,and many more thought processes like these,  find its true ground on the bottom of our heart. The curiosity, we tamed, since our childhood,  finally use to be quenched when we really could  assimilate our substance as an integral part of our persona. Automatically our aura got purified with the pure thoughts. We really began to find ourself  mean enough when we are thinking bad about someone else,  because our superficial thought and shallowness of personality have got filtered by our substance & the consequent gratification is truly awesome!
        Our initial false vision couldn't visualise the essence of life and was wandering here and there in search of physical, materialistic world to grab about every possible things. We want to find our status through the number of expensive goods accumulating around us,,,consequence is,  Increase in  the greed which always goes beyond one's capability to grab it . So we extend our self beyond our limit.
         In this process of grabbing more and more , we don't realise that life is also going with it's regular pace and time is irreversible i.e. what we are now, we shall not be the same tomorrow. But in the process of grabbing more and more, we didn't  peep  into our inside,,,our inside which is saying us, 'how much you really need to live your life happily?' i.e. Is it not enough to live your life satisfactorily? & If u are acquiring it for your  generations to come then  why the hell are you thinking that your next generation will be lame and lazy? & even while thinking so, why is it not coming into your mind that you are trying to make your next generation handicapped while grabbing more and more assets for them!? I mean,,,come on man!!!  Every next generation is smarter enough than the previous one! They can manage their life,,,,,Trust them!
         But, yes, you are definitely making your life measurable in  the process of grabbing,,, and believe me, Its never going to be enough! Because you never allow your inside to say this. So, spare few moments for your self. Do a conversation with you. Ask from yourself, 'Do you really want this? Are these things really making you happy? While doing so, are you close enough to your soul? Do you have a healthy, flourished soul? & Is it that what you want from your life?
         If 'Yes' is the answer truly! then go ahead, but if not then think for a while,,, go slowly,,, and do what really make you satisfied and happy from your inside. Leave the superficial persona of yours,,join your hands with something more meaningful, Find something more quenching and fulfilling to your soul,,,,,, Lets become a human of substance! :-)

Be the change, you want to see in others! Think tank z on....

             Coz then it will make more sense so start from yourself. On the other hand, then you will 

realize the practical applicability of your hypothesis which is, by now, only inside your cranium.

In this reference, there is a short story of Mahatma Gandhi in which a concerned father brought

his son to the Gandhi and ask him to advice his son not to take tea/coffee. Mr. Gandhi requested him

to come after one week. They returned and then again came after one week. Father again requested

Mr. Gandhi to guide his son. Mahatma Gandhi called his son and simply said, 'you should not take

tea/coffee. It can harm your health, Now, u go to your home and try not to take it again.'

After listening these words that boy asked Mr. Gandhi, 'U could have told me this one week earlier?

Why did you delay it for a week?'

Mahatma Gandhi told with a sweet smile, "At that time I didn't know how easy or difficult it would be to quit tea/coffee. But now that I have done it and not at all taking tea/coffee since a week so now I

can recommend you comfortably and confidently not to tame this habit "and believe me, its not very

difficult to quit, its very much doable, that I can say from my own experience.

Boy and his father smiled with hope and returned to their home with an inspiration to do so.

     

Happiness is,,, letting go of the negative stuff! Think tank z on...

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Why have i done so? why he/she always behave like this?Let me change someone from my positivity ! what should i do to correct someones attitude? How should i make everything perfect around me? how to erases the negative aura of someone?.........???? & so many questions like this when we really want to live in a positive surroundings! We want everything perfect and everyone, perfect within our own frame of reference........but wait for a moment and let me clear you one thing that  universe is not revolving around you but its you who is wasting your energy while thinking in such a useless direction! you are making your life miserable while roaming into directionless web of the globe!
Nothing would really change if you will waste your energy to change others attitude,,,,,at least not deliberate attempts! Am i sounding negative while saying so......right?                                                                  But, let me clear, while saying so, I am not telling you to give up everything! What i am saying is to stop being judgemental for others! Because very less things in this universe are right or wrong! Its just your upbringings and your surrounding which are making your own drawing of right and wrong in most of the cases. For example- The thing which is wrong for you, the same thing can absolutely okay with others,,,,and that's due to cultural differences. Now, you can't overnight become unbiased for the culture in which you have spent your entire life! There are definitely going to be some points which is just so positive/negative for you! & for those points, your tolerance is zero!
   Now, how can you help yourself in such a situations? yeah! There is solution for this problem too!
You just need to distance yourself from the people, you think, are negative for you! As a good human being, your first duty is to nurture your soul with good thoughts! Negative people, if they will be around you, will definitely create a certain amount of anxiety in side you! They may not be wrong from their own point of view, but they are not good for your personality or in other words, they don't suits your personality. So better to make a parallel distance from such people.
    Rather, you concentrate on yourself to make your personality better, tolerant, positive, constructive and progressive. Try to broaden the horizon of your thoughts. Try to understand others from their point of view without getting much affected or without being judgemental. Try to make yourself genuinely happy,,,,now, why i am using the word GENUINELY here?!?! Because, in most of the cases, genuine happiness is not related to the pain of others! Its always something which is kind and gentle for everyone!
Well, that's altogether is a different topic and i don't want to deviate my context here, so coming back to the constructive part of individuals personality! Working on yourself in a positive, progressive and constructive direction will always be good and satisfying for your own soul and sometimes inspiring for others also. Sometimes, we boast about changing the society's ill norms! but we must realise that starting point is you and your conduct. After all society is that chain for which you are a link,,,,,,each link is important to form a strong chain of society! Now, i think, you better understand the power of an individual! & In a broader picture, if you are not able to see the role of an individual even now,  then also you should be positive for yourself ,,,,,,because, if not the whole society, then also building your own personality is your responsibility & that you can't deny! So, to nurture your soul, to built yourself in your own eyes, to fulfill the purpose of being here,,,,,,,,,,,,Be good to yourself! Surround yourself with positive people! let go the negative stuff! Believe me, you will be filled with the spark of positivity which will be indeed a source of great joy and truely its coming from your own aura,,,,,,,,,,the light,,,which is shining your world! :-)

Every single creature is different and unique! Think tank is on....

                                                                                                                                                                                   Lets start with a scratch ie a single celled animal to the multi cellular and so called most advance among all creatures ' Human beings'. They all are different in terms of their unique capabilities when it comes to the division of works in nature. No one can takes others position cause it can't compensate others ability. As it was rightly quoted once by 'Vedavyas' to Duryadhana , "The Sun has its own position and the small lamp has its own position! None of them can replace each other". Human can't have chlorophyll so he can't produce oxygen and food directly though he have learned how to govern the nature till some extent. But that governing is not harmless though instantly not visible. You are going to face its consequences. Moral is there is no hierarchy exist in the nature! Every single creature has been created for a certain reason and who will disturb this equation of the nature by creating a hierarchy, he will definitely disturb the balance of nature and that would be irreparable loss for the earth and the living beings of the earth!Development is unavoidable but respect the nature. Compensate if you have damaged something for your own benefit. Take a calculative and educated risks , that too for the common welfare and definitely not for the individual gain. Love the things as they are in their natural harbor , love the God's creatures!

Society is just an illusion! Think tank is on...

   

Its just our frame of mind which is called 'society' . It has been started from the age of savagery and barbarism. At that period there was no society so homo sapience were very alone and aloof. He use to wander to and fro in search of food and temporary night shelter. As the scientific facts were undiscovered at that time and human beings are as ignorant as any wild animal so the only need of the time were food and night shelter . Even clothes were  not the necessity at that time because there was no civilisation existed. Very much unaware, uncertain, scared of the natural hazards, unpredictability of events and many more with no effective solution but taking it as a day to day uncertainties,  were becoming the human nature. But again a Homo sapience had a well developed brain into his cranial cavity which was not allowing him to become relaxed, he was inquisitive, curious about the nature and its behaviour. He was watching that if he is alone he can not fight with a big animal so his life is in danger while he is searching for his food, if he don't have a fix night shelter, any wild animal can kill him while he is still sleeping, Any natural disaster can take away his life anytime and many  practical problems like this so he decided to make a group, a group of Homo sapience. This group was a tribal group then village then town then city..........and then country! which is nothing but a group of people along with all his needs.

WELL, WELL, WELL,,,,that was an initial need because that was a need of an unaware, uneducated, uncivilised and fearful man! Who wanted to secure his life first then his family and then relatives then aquatints and increase the circumference according to social priority. But while doing so he became lost in this sense that this society which he had created, was for his life and not the vice versa !? But it was too late Mr Homo Sapience! Now society has become bigger than your existence! The monster which you had created for your protection, he is very strong now and he has many faces now in the course of evolution. Initially you were controlling him! Now, he is controlling your life! Now you are paying for becoming a civilised person of society which was created by you. Well! that was the need of the hour! Because you were relatively incapable but now you are an educated, enlightened, powerful man to control the nature even! So give a moderate power to your Monster, keep him inside his bottle so that he can not affect your life. Take your decisions from your own genius and not because society is saying you to do so. Keep the magic wand of your life in your hand and don't allow society to rule over it. " I can't do this because society would blame me, i can't speak truth because he/she will feel bad, this work is wrong but there is lots of society's pressure so i'l have to do it......." I mean 'WHAT THE HELL IS THIS SOCIETY!' . 'mere a creation of your own insecurities and which composed of the individuals like you!

I am not saying that dissolve the institution of society but take it constructively! Its very creation was constructive because the idea behind its creation was constructive but select the suitable and positive ones from its many faces. No institutions can be universally perfect under all its time  and circumstances but we need to improve it from time to time. At the end you are individual even in the group to face/solve your own life problems. you will have to walk your path alone and nobody can walk it for you.So do whatever you genuinely want to do and not because of society's pressure and then you will have a satisfaction on your face at the end of your life..."Ki meri jo bhi life thi, wo mere khud ki wajah se thi" not because of any society's pressure,,,,, and believe me, this satishfaction is more than any happiness of the world ie SELF SATISFACTION.

If we don't compare our lives with others,,,,Its always better & happier! Think tank is on....

                               Most of the time we don't realise the power of not comparing us with others...Its simple, on the  earth, there will be always someone who will be better than you in your own eyes! No matter how high we are in our power and position, there will be someone who will be better ( under your own criteria). But its human nature that he want to see himself on the top of the world. That's different thing that his acts/works are not always as per the level of his goal. Now,  here   arise the conflict between his body and mind. Mind wants to achieve everything he wants but body is too lazy to accompany his goal....and the process is on and on and on.......result is permanent restlessness, lack of satisfaction and happiness has been gone permanently from your life. Who is responsible for this??? Its you man! you and your attitude towards life. Jealousy is integral part of human nature but we can correct it or at least lessen its intensity by correcting our attitude! I know its easy to say but difficult to follow....but here again, you are using your efforts to make your life better! so do a bit more effort to fight against your natural instinct !!!                                                                                                  Now, How should you do it if you want to do it? this is the question? Yeah, there is solution also and believe me its not so difficult or innovative. I am not going to say something which is out of the world. Each of us know it. We just need to give a bit more emphasis on our that corner of think tank.                                                                               As we know that no one can be best/Perfect in this world as these are mere words to encourage your achievements! Perfection and absolutism don't exist for a living being! But instead of comparing our life with others, if we would try to make it better and progressive then this will work much better than  you keep on comparing yourself with others! Believe me! If you are determined that you will not make the same mistake time and again, you will try to think and take the  life events positively, you will not allow your body to become over lazy and you will try to make a balance equation among your body, mind and heart,,,,,,,,,YOU WILL DEFINITELY WIN THE HAPPINESS OF YOUR LIFE! No one can stop you anywhere. Your lifespan and energy are too less to tame the jealousy for others. Unnecessarily it takes lots of your energy and quality of thoughts. So not comparing our lives with others and continuously moving in the progressive direction, that's all you need to make your life better and happier!My wishes for your betterment..... :-)

Think tank z on...'Expectation leads to sorrow!!!'

 


                        Don't give a damn!!! Its an endless process ie  EXPECTATIONS! This is the root cause of nearly all miseries in life ! people don't even realise sometimes when it comes or better call, enters into any relationship,,,,, and raise like hell, day by day to make that relationship literally HELL! Nobody actually wants to tame it but its human nature, yes! its very much part of human nature,,, so unavoidable. The only thing which a person can do is, don't think about it because its hard to control when realised its presence in the relationship. Better you focus on other things of your interest , or on person who cares for you, with whom, you have mutual and equal bonding in terms of love, affection, attachment,,,, and try to make  relationship better with them else if you are in the continuance with the expectation less relationships, you will become a prey of self pity,,, which is disastrous and criminal for your own soul! Don't run behind the people who don't care for you just because of your low stature in their own erroneous eyes! It can be fatal for your own soul. Invest, rather, your energy to construct your strength so that you can prove them wrong and make proud to your loving one. Sometimes its very necessary to close some windows of our heart permanently and open some new ventilators for the fresh air! Ventilate your heart with pure, fragrant air because its her right to remain healthy and pleasant always. After all she is your natural companion for the life! :)

Suffering must not be tolerated for the kids & Elders!

 

 

As Lord Buddha told, 'Life is suffering for all' and if we peep in to the reality, basically life is suffering for all though, again, its our attitude towards life. Our life passes through three major stages ie childhood, adulthood and old age. Adults are the working hands of any society/country. The constructive/destructive works of this slot , makes any country or ruin any country. However, the focus of my discussion is not this slot as there is no option for them, they should contribute their works for the society, its their duty! But children and elders are the group of  population who should not face suffering at any cost, in my opinion. We need to equip them atleast with basic amenities, if they cannot afford it themselves. Reason being, one(children) is in the process of learning, building one's life and another(elders) is in the process of leaving this world. So a soul should not leave this visible world without a sense of gratification! In our modern society, we don't practice the fourth stage of life ie 'Sanyaas Ashram' and age are just a number for this new world but again, every slot of population, are not comfortable with this new definition because their back ground, brought up and resource availability, are not same. Though we cannot fix a yardstick for any section,,,,,,,,but, in my opinion, these are the two slots of human population, which should be taken care of specially and deliberately.

think tank z on....'Avoiding unneccessary temptations'

 

Its weakness of our own soul which compel us to do anything against our own intellectuality ! We cant, really say about those acts that we were following our heart at that time. NO! In fact we make a bit mistake in judging the situation. Its actually temptation in many cases, and not the heart which force us to do many things against our own wish! Heart always goes with good, kind and right things but temptation is very selfish, in other words we can say that it always goes with the means of pleasure and comfort. Unfortunatly  most of the evils are very tempting...and austerity is very hard to earn/attain. So in the middle path what we can do is, avoiding the situations, avoiding that particular thinking for that moment, avoiding that kind of conditions as much as possible. Don't let anything come just like that in to your mind, don't acknowledge your mind and heart about that, don't even let you know about your temptations because if you will think about it, wheather its against or in favour of yourself,,,,,its always has a dragging effects! Temptation will drag you in its webby arms and then it will be difficult for you to come out of it. So avoidance, in my opinion, is the best remedy to avoid unwanted temptations. 

 

 

 

We live our attitude in our life!

   One day I was thinking that my mind is thinking since I have come in this world,,,,,,,,,and all the byproducts of my think tank (mind) goes in to biological dust bin of my body!?! So why cant I extract some of them and write here on my page of ' Bownian motion of my think tank'. It can also save the products of my mind in future,,,,,,so that I can cherish the moments while going through it!    
So here I am to write, to share, to become happy, to become sad,to share joy, to share sorrow........ :-( :'(  :-/  :-)  :-D