They seem to be at war with each other! Why? From where are, this negative vibes, coming? where are they leading to this discussion? Can they really do well without each others?
I don't know exactly why, all of sudden, these kind of talks get prominence,,,,but I guess we can take its track from the past where there were hardly any women in the developing countries who had got her own recognition with her own name. Either she was someone's daughter or someone's wife and lately, someone's mother. Though all of the above were respected posts at that time :-D but unlike men, they never got their own recognition as an individual. Now, you can really not count few exceptions because they will be always there, in every case, however, we are talking about the majority of women community.
Everything was good and smooth until few among them raise their voice against the pre established system. That was not against men really but, now women also want their recognition as an individual. She also want to share the power, position and even property. Now, I think, nothing is wrong in it because it is a sign of a healthy and progressive society! Isn't it?
So? why is this a problem now? Answer is, the turbulence in a pre established system. giving up the privileges, sharing the major chunk......etc.
On the other hand, women don't want to take house hold responsibility solely, anymore but she don't want to give up her privileges also.
Guys! This is not about men or women but entire human race is a bit selfish :-D It wants everything good for the itself, at first! Socialisation is not a natural thing for human but it has been introduced to live in harmony. Division of labour was the requirement of the time. In ancient time, due to lack of resources and development, practically it was impossible for a man to handle outside and the home at the same time and so was the case with women. So, with mutual consent, they had divided the works between them to establish the family system. It was a very practical and realistic solution at that time because life was not so easy( physically) like today. Practically, house hold works a long with children were assigned to the women and collection of the livelihood a long with livestock went to men. System was practical, good and smooth so it worked really well! Everyone got used to it and in the course of time, the rules became stricter. Earlier it was by choice but then it became mandatory for men and women to be in their restricted territories! Was is domination of male or lack of freedom, but, lately women developed a sense of inferiority. They thought, they are inferior to male so the division of labour converted into serving. Now, they serve their men and most of the works were obligations for her. It was occasionally suffocating for her but she was bearing with it to support the patriarchal system and sometimes due to fear as male members were physically more powerful.
Time changes and its human nature that it can't take forceful rules. Human are freedom loving by nature and somehow the rules got biased for the women. With the development of technology, the house hold works and outer works become, physically, easier. Now, there were more of the mental works then the physical labor, unlike earlier. Women got the chance to step out of their houses and got the chances to see the outer world. They had started their education followed with jobs. Exposure to the outer world made her freedom loving like men. Now women also want to take education and work. They want their independence and no longer the obligations of house hold works. Due to past, they, sometimes, think revengefully about their male counter part. After getting her self dependence in terms of economy, she wants a redistribution of works unlike the previously established system, because, now the conditions are entirely different from the past. Now, both are supposed to work for the livelihood i.e. man and woman. So, the children and the house hold works are the responsibilities of both. No one should expect from women to work solely at home and at outer world ( office or her work place).
Seems fair? But, it is not that simple from the psychological point of view,,,,,,,because, here, everything is changing for women positively i.e. self empowerment and less chunk of works at home ( which is demand of the time) but, for men, the work load has been increased! Previously, they only supposed to earn the livelihood but now, when they come back to home, they are suppose to share the house hold works also with their spouse. Now, here, arises the tension between the two. Men had seen their mothers and grand mothers only to work at home and not their fathers and grand fathers. Later, in the Patriarchal system, the house hold works were considered as an inferior works which should be done by women only! If a man was trying to help her women then other men used to make fun of that. They taunted him that he was acting like a woman (an inferior one between the two) !? Isn't it ridiculous? But true!
Now, major chunk of men of this era, also keep such mentality. consciously or subconsciously, it is in their mind that house hold works along with children and elders are only the responsibility of women! In the contrast, women do expect their men to share the burden! The very foundation of the war between the two, arises from here so the root is definitely very deep because it will be difficult for men to leave their past culture and women will also not ready to remain at home for the purpose or working at outside and solely at home...... the consequence is an unending war between the two which results into a broken family or relationship. When you tame a grudge against someone, the small, little things become larger! If the foundation of a relation is not based on mutual understanding, the ego takes its prominence in the relationship.
What we can do is,,,,,let's start a fresh. Young generations are the saplings for the society. If you will turn back again and again to see the past, society will never progress. Our ancestors had their own reasons to make that system! There was nothing right or wrong in that but that was demand of the time. World was simpler, life was simpler! But, You need to understand that the system of that time is no more relevant for today because of the changing life style! We extracts some valuable, relevant things from the past and then, can, make our own present. The concept of family is that valuable extract, in my opinion! We can't do without the family as an institution,,,even today! None of us wants to be alone! We all want someone who should be there for us in all the ups and downs of life. I am not judging any one, but, being gay or lesbian, is also not solution for the majority of us, as we want our own progenies to run our family, which is, again, not possible without the combination of the two. Almighty has created both to complement each others! So, please, make your peace with each others, be reasonable in your demands, develop a mutual understanding, share the burden and help in building the foundation of a healthy society, for both! You both are two wheels of a cycle called life, so, really can't do without each other. Let blossom the rosses of your hearts and enjoy the cosequent eternal fragrance... <3 + <3 Cheers and stay blessed! :-D
