Happiness is,,, letting go of the negative stuff! Think tank z on...

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Why have i done so? why he/she always behave like this?Let me change someone from my positivity ! what should i do to correct someones attitude? How should i make everything perfect around me? how to erases the negative aura of someone?.........???? & so many questions like this when we really want to live in a positive surroundings! We want everything perfect and everyone, perfect within our own frame of reference........but wait for a moment and let me clear you one thing that  universe is not revolving around you but its you who is wasting your energy while thinking in such a useless direction! you are making your life miserable while roaming into directionless web of the globe!
Nothing would really change if you will waste your energy to change others attitude,,,,,at least not deliberate attempts! Am i sounding negative while saying so......right?                                                                  But, let me clear, while saying so, I am not telling you to give up everything! What i am saying is to stop being judgemental for others! Because very less things in this universe are right or wrong! Its just your upbringings and your surrounding which are making your own drawing of right and wrong in most of the cases. For example- The thing which is wrong for you, the same thing can absolutely okay with others,,,,and that's due to cultural differences. Now, you can't overnight become unbiased for the culture in which you have spent your entire life! There are definitely going to be some points which is just so positive/negative for you! & for those points, your tolerance is zero!
   Now, how can you help yourself in such a situations? yeah! There is solution for this problem too!
You just need to distance yourself from the people, you think, are negative for you! As a good human being, your first duty is to nurture your soul with good thoughts! Negative people, if they will be around you, will definitely create a certain amount of anxiety in side you! They may not be wrong from their own point of view, but they are not good for your personality or in other words, they don't suits your personality. So better to make a parallel distance from such people.
    Rather, you concentrate on yourself to make your personality better, tolerant, positive, constructive and progressive. Try to broaden the horizon of your thoughts. Try to understand others from their point of view without getting much affected or without being judgemental. Try to make yourself genuinely happy,,,,now, why i am using the word GENUINELY here?!?! Because, in most of the cases, genuine happiness is not related to the pain of others! Its always something which is kind and gentle for everyone!
Well, that's altogether is a different topic and i don't want to deviate my context here, so coming back to the constructive part of individuals personality! Working on yourself in a positive, progressive and constructive direction will always be good and satisfying for your own soul and sometimes inspiring for others also. Sometimes, we boast about changing the society's ill norms! but we must realise that starting point is you and your conduct. After all society is that chain for which you are a link,,,,,,each link is important to form a strong chain of society! Now, i think, you better understand the power of an individual! & In a broader picture, if you are not able to see the role of an individual even now,  then also you should be positive for yourself ,,,,,,because, if not the whole society, then also building your own personality is your responsibility & that you can't deny! So, to nurture your soul, to built yourself in your own eyes, to fulfill the purpose of being here,,,,,,,,,,,,Be good to yourself! Surround yourself with positive people! let go the negative stuff! Believe me, you will be filled with the spark of positivity which will be indeed a source of great joy and truely its coming from your own aura,,,,,,,,,,the light,,,which is shining your world! :-)

Every single creature is different and unique! Think tank is on....

                                                                                                                                                                                   Lets start with a scratch ie a single celled animal to the multi cellular and so called most advance among all creatures ' Human beings'. They all are different in terms of their unique capabilities when it comes to the division of works in nature. No one can takes others position cause it can't compensate others ability. As it was rightly quoted once by 'Vedavyas' to Duryadhana , "The Sun has its own position and the small lamp has its own position! None of them can replace each other". Human can't have chlorophyll so he can't produce oxygen and food directly though he have learned how to govern the nature till some extent. But that governing is not harmless though instantly not visible. You are going to face its consequences. Moral is there is no hierarchy exist in the nature! Every single creature has been created for a certain reason and who will disturb this equation of the nature by creating a hierarchy, he will definitely disturb the balance of nature and that would be irreparable loss for the earth and the living beings of the earth!Development is unavoidable but respect the nature. Compensate if you have damaged something for your own benefit. Take a calculative and educated risks , that too for the common welfare and definitely not for the individual gain. Love the things as they are in their natural harbor , love the God's creatures!

Society is just an illusion! Think tank is on...

   

Its just our frame of mind which is called 'society' . It has been started from the age of savagery and barbarism. At that period there was no society so homo sapience were very alone and aloof. He use to wander to and fro in search of food and temporary night shelter. As the scientific facts were undiscovered at that time and human beings are as ignorant as any wild animal so the only need of the time were food and night shelter . Even clothes were  not the necessity at that time because there was no civilisation existed. Very much unaware, uncertain, scared of the natural hazards, unpredictability of events and many more with no effective solution but taking it as a day to day uncertainties,  were becoming the human nature. But again a Homo sapience had a well developed brain into his cranial cavity which was not allowing him to become relaxed, he was inquisitive, curious about the nature and its behaviour. He was watching that if he is alone he can not fight with a big animal so his life is in danger while he is searching for his food, if he don't have a fix night shelter, any wild animal can kill him while he is still sleeping, Any natural disaster can take away his life anytime and many  practical problems like this so he decided to make a group, a group of Homo sapience. This group was a tribal group then village then town then city..........and then country! which is nothing but a group of people along with all his needs.

WELL, WELL, WELL,,,,that was an initial need because that was a need of an unaware, uneducated, uncivilised and fearful man! Who wanted to secure his life first then his family and then relatives then aquatints and increase the circumference according to social priority. But while doing so he became lost in this sense that this society which he had created, was for his life and not the vice versa !? But it was too late Mr Homo Sapience! Now society has become bigger than your existence! The monster which you had created for your protection, he is very strong now and he has many faces now in the course of evolution. Initially you were controlling him! Now, he is controlling your life! Now you are paying for becoming a civilised person of society which was created by you. Well! that was the need of the hour! Because you were relatively incapable but now you are an educated, enlightened, powerful man to control the nature even! So give a moderate power to your Monster, keep him inside his bottle so that he can not affect your life. Take your decisions from your own genius and not because society is saying you to do so. Keep the magic wand of your life in your hand and don't allow society to rule over it. " I can't do this because society would blame me, i can't speak truth because he/she will feel bad, this work is wrong but there is lots of society's pressure so i'l have to do it......." I mean 'WHAT THE HELL IS THIS SOCIETY!' . 'mere a creation of your own insecurities and which composed of the individuals like you!

I am not saying that dissolve the institution of society but take it constructively! Its very creation was constructive because the idea behind its creation was constructive but select the suitable and positive ones from its many faces. No institutions can be universally perfect under all its time  and circumstances but we need to improve it from time to time. At the end you are individual even in the group to face/solve your own life problems. you will have to walk your path alone and nobody can walk it for you.So do whatever you genuinely want to do and not because of society's pressure and then you will have a satisfaction on your face at the end of your life..."Ki meri jo bhi life thi, wo mere khud ki wajah se thi" not because of any society's pressure,,,,, and believe me, this satishfaction is more than any happiness of the world ie SELF SATISFACTION.

If we don't compare our lives with others,,,,Its always better & happier! Think tank is on....

                               Most of the time we don't realise the power of not comparing us with others...Its simple, on the  earth, there will be always someone who will be better than you in your own eyes! No matter how high we are in our power and position, there will be someone who will be better ( under your own criteria). But its human nature that he want to see himself on the top of the world. That's different thing that his acts/works are not always as per the level of his goal. Now,  here   arise the conflict between his body and mind. Mind wants to achieve everything he wants but body is too lazy to accompany his goal....and the process is on and on and on.......result is permanent restlessness, lack of satisfaction and happiness has been gone permanently from your life. Who is responsible for this??? Its you man! you and your attitude towards life. Jealousy is integral part of human nature but we can correct it or at least lessen its intensity by correcting our attitude! I know its easy to say but difficult to follow....but here again, you are using your efforts to make your life better! so do a bit more effort to fight against your natural instinct !!!                                                                                                  Now, How should you do it if you want to do it? this is the question? Yeah, there is solution also and believe me its not so difficult or innovative. I am not going to say something which is out of the world. Each of us know it. We just need to give a bit more emphasis on our that corner of think tank.                                                                               As we know that no one can be best/Perfect in this world as these are mere words to encourage your achievements! Perfection and absolutism don't exist for a living being! But instead of comparing our life with others, if we would try to make it better and progressive then this will work much better than  you keep on comparing yourself with others! Believe me! If you are determined that you will not make the same mistake time and again, you will try to think and take the  life events positively, you will not allow your body to become over lazy and you will try to make a balance equation among your body, mind and heart,,,,,,,,,YOU WILL DEFINITELY WIN THE HAPPINESS OF YOUR LIFE! No one can stop you anywhere. Your lifespan and energy are too less to tame the jealousy for others. Unnecessarily it takes lots of your energy and quality of thoughts. So not comparing our lives with others and continuously moving in the progressive direction, that's all you need to make your life better and happier!My wishes for your betterment..... :-)

Think tank z on...'Expectation leads to sorrow!!!'

 


                        Don't give a damn!!! Its an endless process ie  EXPECTATIONS! This is the root cause of nearly all miseries in life ! people don't even realise sometimes when it comes or better call, enters into any relationship,,,,, and raise like hell, day by day to make that relationship literally HELL! Nobody actually wants to tame it but its human nature, yes! its very much part of human nature,,, so unavoidable. The only thing which a person can do is, don't think about it because its hard to control when realised its presence in the relationship. Better you focus on other things of your interest , or on person who cares for you, with whom, you have mutual and equal bonding in terms of love, affection, attachment,,,, and try to make  relationship better with them else if you are in the continuance with the expectation less relationships, you will become a prey of self pity,,, which is disastrous and criminal for your own soul! Don't run behind the people who don't care for you just because of your low stature in their own erroneous eyes! It can be fatal for your own soul. Invest, rather, your energy to construct your strength so that you can prove them wrong and make proud to your loving one. Sometimes its very necessary to close some windows of our heart permanently and open some new ventilators for the fresh air! Ventilate your heart with pure, fragrant air because its her right to remain healthy and pleasant always. After all she is your natural companion for the life! :)

Suffering must not be tolerated for the kids & Elders!

 

 

As Lord Buddha told, 'Life is suffering for all' and if we peep in to the reality, basically life is suffering for all though, again, its our attitude towards life. Our life passes through three major stages ie childhood, adulthood and old age. Adults are the working hands of any society/country. The constructive/destructive works of this slot , makes any country or ruin any country. However, the focus of my discussion is not this slot as there is no option for them, they should contribute their works for the society, its their duty! But children and elders are the group of  population who should not face suffering at any cost, in my opinion. We need to equip them atleast with basic amenities, if they cannot afford it themselves. Reason being, one(children) is in the process of learning, building one's life and another(elders) is in the process of leaving this world. So a soul should not leave this visible world without a sense of gratification! In our modern society, we don't practice the fourth stage of life ie 'Sanyaas Ashram' and age are just a number for this new world but again, every slot of population, are not comfortable with this new definition because their back ground, brought up and resource availability, are not same. Though we cannot fix a yardstick for any section,,,,,,,,but, in my opinion, these are the two slots of human population, which should be taken care of specially and deliberately.

think tank z on....'Avoiding unneccessary temptations'

 

Its weakness of our own soul which compel us to do anything against our own intellectuality ! We cant, really say about those acts that we were following our heart at that time. NO! In fact we make a bit mistake in judging the situation. Its actually temptation in many cases, and not the heart which force us to do many things against our own wish! Heart always goes with good, kind and right things but temptation is very selfish, in other words we can say that it always goes with the means of pleasure and comfort. Unfortunatly  most of the evils are very tempting...and austerity is very hard to earn/attain. So in the middle path what we can do is, avoiding the situations, avoiding that particular thinking for that moment, avoiding that kind of conditions as much as possible. Don't let anything come just like that in to your mind, don't acknowledge your mind and heart about that, don't even let you know about your temptations because if you will think about it, wheather its against or in favour of yourself,,,,,its always has a dragging effects! Temptation will drag you in its webby arms and then it will be difficult for you to come out of it. So avoidance, in my opinion, is the best remedy to avoid unwanted temptations.